A Survivor Story: Anonymous

"You took my innocence. You took my happiness. You took my faith in God. You took what should have been my college experience. February 14th 2013. Valentine’s day. You told me that if I didn’t kiss you on valentine’s day I was a bad girlfriend. I just wasn’t ready yet. Memorial Day 2013. I invited you over to my house because dad…

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A Survivor Story: Krissy

Krissy is a 45 year old mother of three. Her main goal in sharing her story is to continue her journey to healing and hopefully help someone else heal.  I then went to close the side door, and he pushed me in.  I couldn't understand what was going on.  He then grabbed my hands and threw me to the floor of the…

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A Survivor Story: Marianne Harris’ Victim Impact Statement

After writing and rewriting my impact statement for sentencing, this is my finished product. I felt it needed to be more personal and what he did to me needs to be known. "Your Honor, My name is Marianne Harris. I am 40 years old. I met Dennis in early September of 2006. I was 28 years old. My ex husband was arrested…

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A Child Survivor Story: Jacob Harris, Age 14

Jacob Harris, with permission from his mother, asked to share his Victim Impact Statement he provided in his abuser's hearing on Survivorhood. Jake was between the ages of 5 months to 11 years old when he endured his abuse. He is sharing his story so other kids know that they aren't alone. "There was a time my mom was cooking bacon for…

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What to do if the COVID-19 Requirement of Wearing a Face Mask is Triggering

I recently had a member of the Survivorhood community reach out for assistance. Krissy Botscharow LaPorte is a survivor of sexual assault and found that wearing a face mask, as required by her state government to protect against the Coronavirus, is quite triggering. Krissy is the inspiration behind this post. Her courage in coming forward to ask for guidance brought to light…

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A Child Survivor Story: Joshua Harris, Age 15

Joshua Harris, with permission from his mother, asked to share his Victim Impact Statement he provided in his abuser's hearing on Survivorhood. Josh was between the ages of 2 to 13 when he endured his abuse. He is sharing his story in his words in hopes to help others and so that other kids don't feel alone in their struggles. "I felt…

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Who Are You Standing Next To?

"In my opinion, this is the most fucked up part of our recovery. We come to believe we wore something we shouldn't have, trusted too easily, or stood up for ourselves too fiercely. We literally blame ourselves for the trauma someone else caused by their intentional violation. It's absurd when you think about it. While I appreciate others assuming I have the…

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Supporting a Survivor

I have recently thought about how different my outcome may have been had my family turned away from me. I remember feeling so isolated and alienated during my marriage. Not only did I live 2.5 hours away from my family during my darkest moments, I often felt emotionally distant as well. I felt like a burden. I would bring them into my…

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A Letter to My Abuser

"You found subtle ways to destroy me, yet keep me on my hands and knees begging for your love. You cannot play the victim when you were the perpetrator in every sense of the word." Dear Travis, I used to cry in pain and agony, praying one day you would apologize for what you put me through. I used to think if…

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The Injunction Hearing

"I reminded him that he was under oath and asked him similar questions over again. Did you ever strangle me? He said no. Did you ever kick me? He said no. Did you ever punch me? He said no." A lot of things were going through my mind. Would he show up? Would he deny everything? Would he attempt to discredit me?…

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